Do Get togethers not Dates

It seems like when you are on a date, there is a sense of false representation from both the man and the woman.They are presumed to be on their 'best behavior' but not themselves.The ultimate aim of a date is to project a good first impression, some people actually sweat over this situation.Whether the date is good or bad,it can all be costly provided that a man knows the spending limit on a date ($20 is the limit).

Some guys go all out with the spending on a first date all in the name of getting the coochie.They spend to impress while under a false representation of themselves.To put it differently a man wines and dines the false representation of a woman because she is on her 'best behavior' and not herself.

By now some people are probably saying but what if her best behavior is her real self and not a false representation.Well such a woman would not compliment the man on the date because he is under his false representation.Lies and honesty don't go together,they clash.Again if the man is himself and if a woman is herself then the whole situation will not feel like a date but a GET TOGETHER.Dates have too many rules that presents falsehood but getting together is being yourself and letting whatever happens flow without even conscious thought.

Being yourself should be seen as your best behavior because there are no lies.A get together is better.A lot of people say that they are one and the same, this is not so, on a date is when you are thinking "Does he/she like me?, "Did I laugh too much?", "Should I say this, should I say that?...and so on.

Get togethers have a different vibe to it, its more like "We wouldn't be together right now if there weren't a level of interest", "Damn she has a cute laugh or he/she is going to get teased about that laugh...lol", "Who cares what I say, we having a good time"...and so on.

The level of comfortability of a date and a get together is very different.Some people may say then why not get together to have a date?As stated throughout, having a date is all about rules and best behaviors but having a get together is about being yourself and allowing the vibe to flow.Dates and get togethers clashes because you cannot really have one or the other because of the differences involved.

Best behavior terminology merely means projecting a false self to impress.This is you lying instead of being yourself.